You are right, and I believe Fr. John alludes to this too, there are lots of struggles within the Orthodox Church. In my own experience, after an almost idillic journey into the Church, after a brief honeymoon period, I experienced the worst church conflict in my life. The damage of that terrible period is still healing (almost 15 years later).
However, as one convert priest said reflecting on his own struggles, "It's kind of like Noah's Ark. It's loud, messy, and crowded with creatures I'd rather not hang out with; but it sure beats the death outside.
And a further point I'd like to make. Community is what you make it. Over the last year or so I have been corresponding with a young mother whose family moved to a new area of the country where the nearest church is culturally very different from what she is used to. The church they want to go to is a two hour drive away. The local church is very uncomfortable for them. The people seem strange and the priest alienates them.
What should she do?
Here is what she has done. After getting over the initial shock, this mother of toddlers decided that this is her church whether she feels welcomed or comfortable or not. She began attending regularly. She took the initiative to go up to people who seemed aloof and introduce herself and talk to them--again and again, whether they seemed friendly or not. She began inviting people over for dinner or for children play dates (and there was at least one real dud). She began to sing in the choir.
Guess what’s happening? Slowly, slowly, she is starting to make friends, to develop community. She still doesn’t care much for the priest (she drives two hours every now and then for confession). She still thinks most of the people are strange--although she is starting to meet and develop relationships with some people who not so strange as they first appeared.
Bottom line: community happens when you make it happen.